Grief – What is Normal?

People who are grieving the death of a loved one suffer often wonder whether their grief is normal. Grief is a normal response after the death of a family member or close friend and healing too, is a part of that process.

There is no universal rule when it comes to healing. Different people face grief differently. Some become very emotional while others are unable to control their tears. Therefore, it is difficult to categorize grief as normal or otherwise.

People have different personalities, different emotional quotients and face different situations of death. The combinations of these factors differ and so too the manifestations of grief among individuals.

Some of the common symptoms of grief include: Keep Reading

Should children attend a funeral?

All parents want to protect their children from the harsh realities of life like death and funerals. Many hesitate to discuss such topics with their kids, worrying that they might scare them.

However many experts and counselors believe that there is no reason to keep this from them. Many find it inappropriate to bring kids (under the age of 12) to a funeral service, mainly because they might cause a disruption. Here are a few facts that will help you make the right decision:

1. Children Understand Death

Many people believe that death is a traumatizing aspect of life and that children are not capable of understanding it. However, experts disagree with this completely. They believe that with the right guidance kids can process this loss in a healthy manner. Keep Reading

Check up time!

It’s that time of the year again. Time for my annual check up.

I actually enjoy the whole process. The car ride to the vet gets me out of the office, which is always a nice break. The clinic workers are always excited to see me and they have snacks! The veterinarian is great, although his stethoscope can be a little too cold. Does he keep that thing in the freezer??

Best of all, the vet says I’m in puuuurrrrfic health! Which is good because I’m planning my next adventure (don’t tell Scott or Diane).

Having “the talk” about end-of-life

An end-of-life conversation with your loved ones in important to ensure you gather all their wishes and desires to hold a memorial that honors them and celebrates their life. Having this conversation before they die may seem uncomfortable or upsetting to talk. Here are some reasons why it is beneficial to the both of you:

Why have the talk?

By finding out the details and specifics of the events they wish to have taken place on the day of their death and their funeral memorial, it can take away the stress of having to make decisions during a difficult time. At a time in your life when death occurs in the family or to a close friend, you are experiencing a whirlwind of emotions and you are beginning to grieve. If you are left with no direction or instructions as to what your loved one wants, having to guess may not fulfill that day the way it could have if there was some guidance left for you.

Peace of mind

If you are thinking you should have the talk but you don’t want to upset your loved ones by bringing the topic of death up, you can break it down into ways that are easier to discuss. Explain that this day is going to come at some point in the future and by having this talk you can have a peace of mind knowing that your family and friends are aware of everything you wish for. You want to spare them the difficult task of planning and organizing a funeral while they are in pain, helping to avoid prolonging their grieving process.

Details to discuss

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Physical Symptoms of Grief

There isn’t any one particular way in which grief manifests itself and many people experience it in different ways. The simple fact is that grief and sorrow are something that are very difficult to understand until you are compelled to live with it. But many people do become stressed when dealing with the death of a loved one, not many are aware that grief can also manifest itself in the form of physical symptoms. It takes them quite some time to realize, that the physical problems they’re facing are correlated to the loss they’ve experienced.

Different Physical Symptoms Of Grief

Since every person is different, the grief they experience and the manner in which it surfaces as physical symptoms is different as well. However some of the common symptoms include:

  • Headaches
  • Fatigue
  • Aches and pains
  • Shortness of breath
  • Tightness in the chest
  • Forgetfulness
  • Inability to focus
  • Digestive issues
  • Appetite changes
  • Getting sick more often
  • Sleeplessness

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The day God called you home

God looked around his garden
And He found an empty place.
He then looked down upon this earth,
And saw your tired face.

He put his arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.

He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.

He saw that the road was getting rough.
And the hills are hard to climb,
So He closed your weary eyelids
And whispered “Peace be thine”.

It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn’t go alone
For part of us went with you
That day that God called you home

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Anniversaries Can Be Hard

Anniversaries are important milestones in a person’s life. For example, a marriage anniversary is a special day to celebrate a lifelong commitment. Such events ensure you don’t take life for granted and cherish every year.

These celebrations can turn into sorrow after the death of a loved one. They become stark reminders of what you have lost. At Elite Funeral Directors, we have found that there are three simple things you can do to make anniversaries a little easier.

1. Take a break

Anniversaries can be painful if you’re in familiar surroundings so taking a break is a great way to get away from it for a while. Travel to a different destination with friends or take a road trip. The new experiences and curiosity will overshadow the grief and help you get through the day.

2. Celebrate it differently

You can get through anniversaries without removing them from your life. Instead of celebrating it in the same manner as you did before, consider doing something new and interesting. Keep Reading